How To Introduce Sex Toys In The Bedroom

1-main-sex-positionNow that Fifty Shades of Grey is so popular, all of the media is talking about sex and sex toys. Are you curious about trying them but are too embarrassed? Are you unsure whether they are right for you and your relationship?

The following are some common misconceptions about adult toys:

Most people don’t use sex toys

Wrong! Many respectable people use adult toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Using an adult toy doesn’t make you “odd” or doesn’t say anything negative about your relationship. It just helps you have fun more fun in the bedroom! You don’t have to share with your friends, your boss or your mother that you use toys unless anyone unless you want to.

Sex toys are just for masturbation.

While adult toys are commonly used for masturbation, many couples enjoy using toys together, whether they are female or male or heterosexual or homosexual. Usually these couples are comfortable trying new things together, are open-minded, and trusting.

Your partner will feel inadequate if you start using a sex toy.

Are you nervous that if you bring an adult toy into the bedroom, it will hurt your partner’s feelings? An adult toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t tell you how much they love you or rub your back. An object is not a substitute for a real person. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication is key.

Using sex toys can be physically dangerous.


In fact, adult toys can have very positive effects on your sexual health.

For example, many doctors and therapists recommend adult toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm; if you suffer from painful sex, vibrators can stimulate blood flow; all women can benefit from kegel exercisers or kegel balls to tone the pelvic floor muscles; prostate massagers reduce the risk of prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction and frequent nighttime urination. Lastly, orgasms help you live longer, block pain and, some say, look younger. Who wouldn’t want that?

If you use sex toys too much, you won’t have an orgasm with your partner.

If your partner is afraid you’ll replace him or her with your favorite toy, promise him or her that you’ll always keep things different in the bedroom: try different positions, new toys, light bondage and fantasy play.

If your relationship is healthy, there’s no reason why you should need a sex toy.

You are so lucky to have a healthy relationship. However, who wouldn’t want to make their relationship even stronger and closer by sharing a new experience? If your lover is insistent about not wanting to use an adult toy to spice up your sex life, assure him or her that you don’t need an adult toy either, you’d just like to try one.

You or your partner is afraid of feeling pleasure

Pleasure is a birthright. Everyone deserves it and should have it. Own your sexuality and do what works for you. After all, orgasms make you healthier and happier.

Buying sex toys can be really embarrassing especially because they look gross and scary.

You are right. Now, thanks to the Internet, you can shop in the comfort of your own home without judgement. Most adult toys make you feel uncomfortable because they are usually phallic or cheesey or are so loud that you think your children or neighbor might hear what you are up to. Luxury sex toys are just the opposite. You might not even realize that they are high quality adult toys because they look like art. They are now so discreet and quiet that no one will know what you are up to.

These arguments might make sense and work for most people but might not work for you. If that’s the case, here are 3 more reasons to try out sex toys:

Pleasure = Sex Toys

Who is not a fan of orgasms? You might be too tired or too busy to have sex, but there’s no denying that orgasms feel good. Adult toys can help you have more orgasms. What’s wrong with that?

Sex Toys are Fun.

Whether you have been with your lover for a few months or many years, things might be a little stale and you want to try something new. That’s OK – you are not alone! Adult toys can add excitement to the bedroom and keep things from getting mundane. Using an adult toy together can bring you closer; sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.

Sex Toys Make Sex Better.

Did you know that about 30% of women actually have an orgasm during sex? Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Meanwhile, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like, whether it be because of age, medication or stress. That’s what adults toys are for!

If you are now ready to start using adult toys, here are a few suggestions to get started:

Start slow by starting out with something small. Start with a small toy and show your lover that the toy is all about adding more pleasure and excitement to the bedroom. For example, if you want to try a vibrator, start with something that’s small and discreet, like a finger vibrator or vibrating egg. If you want to try light bondage, try a blindfold or holding your lover’s hands above their head during foreplay.

When you are ready, work your way up to something bigger and bolder.

Above all else, remember that communication is the key to any healthy relationship. If you can’t share your feelings or desires, something is not right. Intimacy and fun are the main goal. It is entirely up to you to decide whether that means with or without sex toys, but experimentation never hurt anyone!

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How to Choose a Table Lamp for the Bedroom

The bedroom is the place where you find your solitude after a long stressful day of work. That is why it is important for the bedroom to have the correct lighting in order to create the perfect ambience that will help you to put your body and mind at peace. By following these simple tips, you can choose the right bedroom table lamp to create the same effect.

First of all, you need to look at the type of bedroom the table lighting fixture is going to be placed in. There are basically two distinctions to be made here, that is between an adult bedroom and a kid’s bedroom. This then concerns both the style of the room and the size of the bed. If your room is meant for an adult, then it will be most likely to have a larger king or queen sized bed. If this is so, you will need to get a lamp that is bigger to complement the size of your bed. On the other hand, a child’s room will usually have a single bed, so you will only need to get one that is smaller. The style of the room-modern, traditional, contemporary, etc- also affects the type of lighting fixture that should be used.

Secondly, you need to look at the size of the table lamp. You can determine the correct size by looking at the night stand where it will be placed upon. A simple rule to follow is this: get a lamp that stands just at the same level as your bed head or one that falls just below it. Also, if you are more of a reading-before-bed person, you need to get a larger lampshade so that your eyes will not have to squint. The size of the table light should not also be too big, because chances are you are going to want to place other items on the night stand too.

Lastly, you need to look at the positioning of the table light on the nightstand. Another simple rule to follow is to just place it closer to the wall so that you will have more space to put your alarm clock, photo frames and other items. You will also need to consider the movement your body will most likely make to avoid you from knocking the lamp down and breaking it. For this reason, it is also best to get a table light that has a slightly heavier base. With the right table lamp, you can create the right ambience to the peaceful sanctuary that is the bedroom.

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Practical Tips for Furnishing Your Kids Bedroom

Anyone with kids will know that when it comes to decorating their room it’s not simply a case of buying the same kind of furniture you’d use for adults bedrooms. Kids have their own taste too, and a sense of style and this is accommodated for with some great designs and colour schemes both attractive and practical.

For a start youngsters don’t have long legs like us adults and that’s why there are manufacturers who specialize in dinky furniture, including chairs, desks and bed frames, all miniature in size to fit small people.

Apart from looking good most parents when searching for furniture for youngsters want products that are resilient and made to last, not as careful as adults with their belongings chests of drawers and blanket boxes are guaranteed to be banged into, drawers and lids slammed closed, as well as furniture getting kicked, scratched and marked over the years. So it makes sense to buy good solid bedroom furniture unless you want to have to replace it again in a year or so.

Along with strong durable products, your child also want items made to size, chairs and beds should be lower to the ground than normal so the little ones can climb up and down by themselves and don’t have to ask for a helping hand from mum or dad every time.

How about the safety aspect? Well, manufacturers have that covered too. Beds can be found complete with rails along the side to prevent small children from falling out when asleep.

Kids like adventure, colour, and fun and this also stretches to the kind of furniture that appeals, theme beds are good fun made to resemble racing cars, bulldozers, and princess’s horse and carriages. Letting them help choose their bedroom furniture will also make them proud of their room and appreciate the things they have.

Kids only need a single bed but like to have their friends over to sleep sometimes, so it makes sense to invest in one that comes complete with a guest bed, if you’ve never heard of it then the idea is very simple, it’s just a bed with an extra one tucked away underneath! When a friend comes for a sleepover the bed is pulled out, attached wheels make them easy to manoeuver, and pushed back under again in the morning. If the extra bed is needed elsewhere then it can be detached and used separately offering a high level of flexibility. It’s a great idea and very practical in saving space and extremely useful.

You can never have enough storage space with kids, the amount of toys, books and clothes they seem to acquire is astounding and it can be difficult to know where to put it all without creating a mess in the room and cluttering up the space. This is where underbed storage drawers and blanket boxes come in, generally the space under the bed is wasted so incorporating drawers into a bed design is very clever and handy for storing away all those bits and pieces kids seem to collect.

Online you’ll find manufacturers who stock some fantastic ranges of solid wood children’s furniture, high in quality and which can also be made to order. Many items are painted in colourful, bright designs or simply left in the traditional oak colour. Check out chest of drawers for storage, bookcases and cabinets to keep their belongings neat and tidy, and funky blanket boxes which are ideal for keeping toys and games in order.

There are all kinds of colours and natural woods to choose your children’s furniture in, from white painted bedside tables and wardrobes to pink and blue options. Oak is popular as it’s a fine solid wood that produces high quality pieces and looks just as good when painted in pastel or funky colours, or left with a natural look, and it’s incredibly hardwearing.

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Feng Shui the Objects in Your Bedroom For a Thriving Relationship

When you stand in the doorway to your bedroom what do you see? What’s the first object that catches your attention? Does your bedroom feel welcoming and cozy? If you’re a woman, does it feel too feminine to welcome a male partner, or vice versa? If you’re in a relationship, does your bedroom feel like you both have an equal partnership within the space? The objects in your bedroom have their own Feng Shui Element and/or historic energy. They can enhance your experience or keep you from the intentions your space should benefit.

What are the two main activities that should be optimized within your master bedroom? It would seem that these are obvious. But so many times we have objects such as: a desk, a television, a tall pile of books, or even boxes or clutter under the bed. Any objects that interfere with revitalizing sleep or life-affirming intimacy should be removed from your bedroom.

Here are some examples of objects that should be removed from your bedroom and what you should use instead:

•King sized Bed – most of these are supported by a split box spring. When partners sleep on them, they usually end up on opposite sides of the bed due to the ridge that is formed in the middle. Not very good for a cozy relationship! Replace it with a Queen sized bed for more intimacy, and a stable relationship. The Queen bed has a square shape, a symbol for the Earth Element, which brings stability and a feeling of safety.

•Stuffed Animals or Pictures of Children – an adult bedroom should be just that, Adult! From the colors used to the textures and fabrics, the entire experience of the bedroom should be in line with the adult intentions for the space. You wouldn’t have a Buzz Lightyear bedspread, right? Keep the kids objects in their room and make yours a sensual experience for you and your partner. Place images of loving couples in your bedroom, and if you have some happy pictures with your mate use them too.

•Big Black Plasma TV – when it is turned off, this big black hole on the wall can add lots of Water Element and douse the Fire of passion. When it’s turned on it becomes a distraction to intimacy. Both of these are definite Relationship busters! There are many ways to deal with this dilemma. The first would be to remove it entirely from the bedroom, and replace it with a beautiful image on the wall; one that keeps you dreaming of your future together. If removal is not an option, then place it inside an armoire, so that you can shut it away when not in use. Or as a last resort, drape a throw over it at night before going to sleep, or have a screen saver with a beautiful scene on display.

•Dried flowers or dusty silk plants – a master bedroom should be a place that symbolizes two persons thriving together (even if only one person occupies the space and just desires a loving relationship). Dead and dusty plants are the absolute opposite of that intention. Replace them with romantic candles, live plants like an orchid, or lovingly dust off the existing silk plants. A happy relationship is formed by two persons growing together, so make sure the objects in your bedroom reflect who you really intend to be.

These are just a few of the actions you can take to create a bedroom that is really in tune with good Feng Shui for a Thriving Relationship. Take a look around your bedroom and make sure it’s in line with your true desires and intentions. That’s the first and most important step to fulfilling your dreams, which is the sole purpose of great Feng Shui.

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Full Size Sleigh Beds Are Great for Adult Bedrooms

When you want a new way to spruce up your old bedroom, or an idea for decorating a new adult bedroom, full size sleigh beds are the way to go. They make a great centerpiece for the room that you can build the rest of the décor around and they are also good for blending in with a décor or theme you might already have in a room.

Sleigh beds are a classic type of bed that have been around for a long time. They are named such because their headboards and footboards resemble a sleigh, such as one Santa and his reindeer would ride in. There was a common misconception in the past that sled beds were only for children.

While it is true that some of the best and most well known sleigh beds were those designed for children, particularly little girls, they have come a long way past that today. We can find some of the most beautiful, elegant and sophisticated beds around in a sleigh style.

Usually, but not always, they are made from types of wood. This is preferred because it adds to the “sleigh” feel of the bed. It has elegantly curved foot and headboards that give the impression you are sleeping in a large sled. Full size beds are a great choice because sleigh beds are a style that will naturally take up more of the room so you don’t need an exceptionally large one.

You can use full sized sleigh beds to decorate a guest bedroom in your home and when guests stay over, they will feel like royalty. These beds create a very luxurious feel to the entire room and makes the person sleeping it in feel extra special. If you’re looking for a bed for an adult bedroom today, this is your best choice for style and quality.

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